Lying TEDtalk

Lying is a cooperative act in that the power of a lie appears when someone else agrees to believe in the lie. By doing this, you agree to be lied to. I agree with what Meyer has to say about cooperative lying because cooperation is agreeing with someone on a topic. In cooperative lying, the one being lied to, agrees to believe the lie being told. Large reasons of why we lie is to please someone else's feelings. If you would not want to be deceived by others, then you need to make sure you know exactly what you are looking for. When Meyer states that lying is a way of connecting that we wish we were with what we are, she is basically saying that lying bridges a gap. We know that we are not something that we would really like to be, so we lie to make ourselves think we are what we aren't. I would definitely agree with Truth #2 that we, as a society, are against the thought of lying, but we do it as needed for good reasons. We do this because we don't completely understand the gaps and lying is something that is just part of our culture and history. Some techniques used to spot liars include not using contractions in speech to over determine denial and using phrases like, "that woman" to distance themselves. Other techniques are freezing the upper body, not fidgeting at all, looking in the eyes too much, fake smiling, looking down, lowering the voice, etc. Now, even people telling the truth will show some of these signs, but it is when you see a large number of them in clusters that you can tell they are lying. We would want to learn techniques to see if people are lying or telling the truth. These would mostly come in handy in the law setting when telling if someone is guilty or innocent. Honestly is definitely something worth preserving. Most relationships, whether they be romantic, business, or athletic, are based on honesty. If there was no honesty, the world could end up being a very unsafe place. We can create a cultural/societal change through things like social media. If we change the way we post by not oversharing our lives and everything in them, it will definitely help. Oversharing things is not honesty. Integrity and character are what matters, and oversharing is something that does not not help us keep either. Being more straightforward about moral codes could help signal to others that you life is an honest life. This will help to change the ground and even people around you to be more positive.